Help somebody else or not
More common than anyone admits, and it goes wrong in a specific way: the helper ends up holding the risk.
Explain, and touch nothing
- What you gain
- The risk stays where the decisions are being made, and they build habits that work when you are not there.
- What you give up
- Slower, and it requires them to be willing to learn.
- Suits
- Anyone helping anybody.
Set it up for them
- What you gain
- Fast, and it gets somebody past a barrier they would not have crossed.
- What you give up
- Your machine did the setup and your network carried it. The account is theirs and the trail is yours.
- Suits
- Nobody, however reasonable each individual shortcut seems.
Decline
- What you gain
- No exposure, and no responsibility for decisions you will not be present for.
- What you give up
- Somebody may go and do it with no precautions at all.
- Suits
- Anyone asked by a person unwilling to do the setup themselves.
Where the exposure lands
When you set something up for another person, the account is theirs and the reconstruction is around you. Your machine, your network, and usually your wallet the first time. If anything is ever pieced together, they appear nowhere in it.
Nobody plans this. It happens because helping is easier than teaching, and each shortcut is reasonable on its own. Doing it once on your machine is faster than talking somebody through it. Funding it once from your wallet is faster than explaining acquisition. Then it is a habit.
Teaching it instead
- They install the client on their machine and check the installer signature. If they will not do this part, nothing after it is worth doing.
- They establish the fingerprint themselves. Do not hand them yours, because a fingerprint accepted from a person is a fingerprint accepted on trust, which is the habit you are trying to prevent.
- They copy the address and run the check. Watch, correct, do not touch the keyboard.
- They set the password and store the recovery material. You should never see either.
- They fund it themselves. The step most often shortcut and the one that decides where the trail leads.
What tips it
Whether they will do the setup. Somebody unwilling to spend an hour on parts with no visible payoff will skip verification later, when it is inconvenient, and the consequences of that land on whoever helped them. That is not a moral judgement, it is that you cannot supply somebody else with judgement, and mechanics without judgement is the combination that produces the worst outcomes.